I think anyone who has spent a few days in my company has a fairly good idea of what kind of person I am. So when I say that I cannot deal with certain qualities in my partner, I friggin' MEAN it!
I told J the first day we met that I would never consider a relationship with a smoker and heavy drinker. I guess he thought I wasn't serious, because he swore blind that he would stop and never did.
I also will not consider being in a relationship with someone who already is involved with someone else. Apparently, J was in the process of thinking of a solution to the issue. As far as I can see? That just means sitting pretty with two girls on either side.
Lastly (in J's case), I will not consider being in a relationship with anyone who doesn't operate with integrity. I don't really want to elaborate on this one, because I guess it is pretty self-explanatory.